Those who make us feel – in grief – that we must “perform” are not worth concerning yourself with. Just be you…it’s horrid & it’s sad & it’s unfair…& later, remember & move forward & KNOW that not one single reaction, not one single tear, not one single laugh, giggle, thought or spoken word was “wrong” or out place.

Thinking of you both :)

We found that we just tried to provide everything that could give comfort, and it really brought the family together in ways I won’t forget.

As for the physical deterioration, it was of less concern – you sort of get used to it after awhile. Unfortunately even in good hospitals and care units there is a certain loss of dignity and you don’t really have a lot of choice but to accept it.

I have some great memories of her mum and they are still very strong. Nearly every day I think of her and it seems amazing to me that she is gone. We are still a little stunned. You will be fine Ben.